Showing up even when she didn’t want to, that’s what Sia does. We’re similar in that we always show up. But I never even think of not showing up. To work. To therapy. To marriage.
After college, my first boss told me showing up is the key to success. I was shocked and imagined what could happen if I worked hard and had some talent. I ended up running his New York office.
After several years of tortured but successful psychotherapy, I felt healthy enough to take a break. My therapist congratulated me on showing up. Again, shock. “A lot of people don’t stick with therapy,” she said. “It’s excruciating.”
I showed up for 30 years of marriage. I admit sometimes I shut down just like I shut down on the job or in therapy. And I stayed. Until pain shunted me out.
Now, I have an even more difficult role. Showing up, just for me.